For Men

So...she's pregnant?

First and foremost, don’t panic. Your upcoming decisions don’t rely on your shoulders alone. You have a partner to navigate your next steps who needs you now more than ever. Look out for her both emotionally and physically. How? Check out our tips below.

What to do:

Talk with her and LISTEN. Ghosting her or leaving her on read isn’t going to make this go away. In fact, it’s going to make things a lot harder for the both of you. Have frequent open and honest conversations!

Talk with each of your important people. Yeah, you may want to keep it a secret during the initial shock. But the people who will be directly involved (parents, guardians, etc.) HAVE to know what’s going on eventually. Who knows, maybe they’ll even be willing to help!

Educate yourself. How can you help if you don’t even really know what’s going on in her body? Learn about what is happening both to her body and to your baby with each trimester. Go to her parenting classes. Go to her birthing classes. Read a book. Listen to a podcast during your workout. The more informed you are, the less confusion you’ll feel!

Be honest with her and with yourself! This isn’t the time to cover up your feelings. Scared? Say that! Anxious? Say that! Confused? Say that! Chances are, she is feeling all the same things and to know that you aren’t alone in your feelings will be a huge relief!

What NOT to do!

Don’t leave. She needs you. She does not want to go through this pregnancy alone and she should not have to do so. You can make the situation better by staying and providing a positive presence on the pregnancy journey.

Don’t pressure her. Remember that you are a team. Putting pressure on her is bad for both of you. You have a say in this situation, but keep in mind that the decision is ultimately hers to make. Your role is to support her and show her you care.

Your First Steps in Helping Her

The first thing you need to do is to encourage her to find out for sure that she is pregnant. After she has had a positive pregnancy test and ultrasound to verify the pregnancy, you should then learn about your options. We provide free pregnancy testing in our clinic, as well as many support services. We are here to give you the information you both need, so she feels empowered to make her own decision.

Moore Options can help you in a variety of ways, including our parenting classes. You will not be alone as you support her during this pregnancy. We have a curriculum designed specifically for men, along with a team of men from our community, to support you along the way.

We are here for you and your partner. If you have any questions or need our support, feel free to contact us. We will help in any way we can. 

Have more questions?

There’s no doubting that this is hard. If you or your partner have more specific questions or concerns, reach out to us and we’d be happy to help.

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